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Ending a relationship can be complicated, and no matter who calls things off, one or both of you might find yourselves wanting to reach back out to each other. Maybe you just want to check in and form a friendly relationship, or perhaps you're interested in getting back together. Whatever the case, if you still want to talk to your ex after a breakup ,don't freak out: It's totally normal. First and foremost, it all "depends on the timing and the intentions," intimacy and sexuality coach Irene Fehr tells Elite Daily.

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It is like grieving a death. When you get your heart broken it is only normal to feel sad and remember the good times: the flowers, the sex, the laughs, and the love. Guess what?


Is it ok to talk to your ex?

Even if you parted ways on good terms, the idea of being friends with an ex is, well, weird. Breakups, no matter how they ended, are never easy.

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But, time heals all wounds, as they say, or at least some of them. But, before you do that, you need to get in the right mind set first.

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This one can be tricky. You may miss them romantically, but you also may miss them as a friend. It's not always clear exactly what you miss about them, but it's important to determine whether these feelings are intensely romantic or not. Make sure you're not setting yourself up for emotional pain.

Why is communication between exes so important?

Talking to an ex when you're drunk can mean trouble. Texting, ing, or post anything on their Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or whatever other million forms of social media exist could be something you'll quickly regret the next day. What sucks about breaking up with someone is that eventually they will start dating again and that someone, because you broke up, won't be you.

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It's only when your ex can bring up the new person they're dating and you know you won't fly into a jealous rage, that you can talk to them. I feel like this one is hard.

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Depending on how the relationship ended, it might be a very long time before you can be happy for your ex. If you know that talking to them will lead to you being fake happy for whatever good things are going on in their life, then wait awhile. Feigning happiness is exhausting Remember, you broke up for a reason.

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In talking to them with the sole hope of rekindling what once was is regressing; you're supposed to be moving forward. True story: My ex, who has been jobless for a while now, is being kicked out of his apartment on April 1. Where he will end up, he doesn't know.

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Because there is still so much animosity there due to his behavior, there's no way in hell I can talk to him right now without gloating. Gloating is not an attractive quality in a human being, so I'm going to wait before I pick up the phone to text him.

It's not OK to bask in the misfortunes of others. Even if they did break your heart.

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Yes, having sex with an ex may seem better than a one-night stand, because of that awesome familiarity. But there are also emotions and intimacy and, before you know it, you could be wondering if you're falling in love again. If you weren't already talking to them before, talking to them just to hook up with them can lead to drama.

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If you and your ex cut all ties, even mutual friends, and many months have passed and you're truly clueless as to what's going on in their life, then it's OK to send a casual text asking them how they are. But only if it's out of genuine concern and not because you want to start something back up again There are so many cons in talking to an ex shortly after a breakup, and many of them have to do with the emotional state you're both in.

When to stay friends with an ex

But once you can get to the point where talking to your ex has more pros than cons, then consider it. I'm a firm believer that after a breakup, therapy is your BFF. You have so many things you want to talk about and work out, and you may not want to discuss them with friends or family.

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So, if you're thinking you're ready to talk to your ex again, you definitely want to come up with a plan with your therapist or someone else you talk to about it. Go over all the emotions, concerns, fears, and the rest of it. You want to make sure you're talking to them again for the right reasons.

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So, you've met up with your ex for a drink and halfway into the conversation, they tell you that they're getting married or their partner is pregnant Basically, you want to be very well prepared for whatever comes out of their mouth. Even if you know you no longer love them, that doesn't mean hearing about them moving on with someone else is going to be easy.

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It's easier to hold a grudge than forgive. Forgiving someone who has hurt you is also just as hard as admitting that you were wrong and apologizing.

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However, before you can talk to your ex you need to know in your heart that you forgive them or, if necessary, are able to apologize. Being able to forgive and be secure in that forgiveness is essential before reaching out to an ex. Only you know when it's OK to talk to your ex again.

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Consider what it means, what you hope to get out of it, and how to go about it. So whether it takes you six months or six years before you're able to talk to your ex again, don't rush it. When you're ready, you'll know. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?

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