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Generally speaking, they prefer shallow relationships preferably one-way, with the arrow pointing toward themselves , and need outside sources to maintain their inflated but delicate egos. So, a shallow cave that you can get into, but not out of. The Internet offers both a vast potential audience, and the possibility for anonymity, and if not anonymity, then a carefully curated veneer of self that you can attach your name to. When it comes to studies of online narcissism, and there have been many, social media dominates the discussion. This state emphasizes realistic socially desirable identities an individual would like to establish given the right circumstances. Science has linked narcissism with high levels of activity on Facebook, Twitter, and Myspace back in the day. And people post online for different reasons.

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In the Post we looked at the required criterions to officially diagnose someone with a full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder NPD , as opposed to some of us who can show narcissistic traits when our self-esteem and sense of self is threatened.


This article was originally published in May Having both read and written about how to be an effective and charismatic conversationalist, I followed the old dictum of listening more than talking and asking the other person engaging questions about themselves. This is supposed to charm your conversation partner.

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Instead, most folks seem to struggle with asking any questions at all and have a very difficult time relinquishing the floor. In a time where a lot of the old social supports people relied upon have disappeared, people have become starved for attention. They bring this hunger to their conversations, which they see as competitions in which the winner is able to keep the attention on themselves as much as possible. And this is turning the skill of conversation-making into a lost art.

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Conversational Narcissism In The Pursuit of Attentionsociologist Charles Derber shares the fascinating of a study done on face-to-face interactions, in which researchers watched 1, conversations unfold and recorded how people traded and vied for attention. Conversational narcissism typically does not manifest itself in obviously boorish plays for attention; most people give at least some deference to social norms and etiquette.

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While it may seem a bit strange that conversations can be analyzed this deeply, Dr. I know it did for me. Conversations: Competition vs. Cooperation The quality of any interaction depends on the tendencies of those involved to seek and share attention.

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Competition develops when people seek to focus attention mainly on themselves; cooperation occurs when the participants are willing and able to give it. Each individual has to sacrifice a little for the benefit of the group as a whole and ultimately, to increase the pleasure each individual receives. One person who keeps on playing a sour note can throw the whole thing off.

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But many people and Dr. Derber argues, Americans especially, because of our culture of individual initiative, self-interest, and self-reliance make conversations into competitions. They want to see if they can get the edge on the other people in the group by turning the attention to themselves as much as possible.

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This is accomplished through the subtle tactics of conversational narcissism. How does conversational narcissism rear its head and derail what could have been a great face-to-face interaction? During a conversation, each person makes initiatives.

These initiatives can either be attention-giving or attention-getting.

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Conversational narcissists concentrate more on the latter because they are focused on gratifying their own needs. Attention-getting initiatives can take two forms: active and passive. Active Conversational Narcissism The response a person gives to what someone says can take two forms: the shift-response and the support-response.

The support-response keeps attention on the speaker and on the topic he or she has introduced. The shift-response attempts to set the stage for the other person to change the topic and shift the attention to themselves. Rob: Oh yeah? What models have you looked at? James: Really? Rob: Yup, I just test drove a Mustang yesterday and it was awesome. In the first example, Rob kept the attention on James with his support-response.

In the second example, Rob attempts to turn the conversation to himself with a shift-response. The shift-response if often very subtle.

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You might simply be looking to highlight what the other person has said and share a bit of your own experience before bringing the conversation back to the other person. Maybe we could go look around together. Rob: Sure.

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So what models are you looking at? Rob: Well, what are the most important things to you — fuel economy, storage room, horsepower? So here Rob interjected about himself, but then he turned the conversation back to James.

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Conversational narcissists, on the other hand, keep interjecting themselves until the attention has shifted to them. I just test drove the Mustang yesterday and it was awesome. Rob: Well, I want something with at least horsepower and definitely leather seating.

Did I ever tell you about the time my buddy let me take his Maserati out for a spin? Now that is an automobile.

Narcissists use a subtle conversation tactic to make everything about them, and you may not notice it until its driving you crazy

James: Which one of your friends has a Maserati? Most conversational narcissists — careful not to appear rude — will mix their support and shift responses together, using just a few more shift-responses, until the topic finally shifts entirely to them.

The best rule to follow is simply not to jump in too early with something about yourself; the earlier you interject, the more likely you are to be making a play to get the attention on yourself.

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Instead, let the person tell most of their story or problem first, and then share your own experience. Passive Conversational Narcissism Conversational narcissism can take an even subtler form.

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A victory for the conversational narcissist. The speaker easily picks up on this skewed-timing and will stop talking and shift their attention to the narcissist. People will often pull out this kind of line right at the end of an event, so they can make a show of etiquette and interest in the other chat, while not actually having to give that person attention that lasts more than a few minutes.

Becoming a Master of the Art of Conversation Avoiding these pitfalls of looking narcissism will have you well on your way to becoming a competent and charismatic conversationalist. Once someone introduces a topic, your job is to draw out the narrative from them by giving them encouragement in the form of background acknowledgments and supportive assertions, and moving their narrative along by asking supportive narcissists.

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Once their topic has run its course, you can introduce your own topic. But as we mentioned earlier, it takes two to tango. Just smile and enjoy the chips. Looking for more advice to up your social game? Check out these resources! Menu podcast. Accessories Shaving Style. Fitness Nutrition Sports Wellness.

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